Divorce Podcast Roundup: The Hidden Connections Between Co-Parenting, Healing & Your Divorce Settlement
Your divorce attorney can fight for custody. They can negotiate asset division. They can file motions and argue in court.
But they won't tell you how high-conflict co-parenting becomes financial leverage.
They won't explain how unprocessed trauma shows up in settlement negotiations—making you accept less just to "be done."
And they definitely won't warn you that the prenup you signed 15 years ago has a 50/50 shot of being upheld.
I'm Rhonda Noordyk, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® and host of Disrupting Divorce: Conversations for Women. And I've spent over a decade watching women lose hundreds of thousands of dollars—not because they had bad attorneys, but because nobody connected the dots between the "soft stuff" and their financial settlement.
Most divorce professionals operate in silos.
Your attorney focuses on custody schedules and asset division. Your therapist focuses on emotional healing. Your mediator focuses on reaching agreement.
Nobody's looking at how these pieces affect each other.
Nobody's saying: "Your ex is using custody threats to pressure you into a worse financial settlement."
Nobody's warning: "The reason you want to settle right now—even though it’s not in your best interest—is because you're negotiating from exhaustion, not clarity."
Nobody's connecting: "That 'struggling business' your ex claims? That's where your settlement money is hiding."
That's the gap I fill as a trauma-informed Certified Divorce Financial Analyst®.
I see how high-conflict co-parenting bleeds into settlement negotiations. How emotional wounds show up as financial concessions. How prenups get weaponized when one person controls the narrative.
And I see how much these blind spots cost women.
That's why I've brought together three experts who specialize in the nuances that make or break your settlement:
A parenting coordinator who handles custody warfare
A divorce coach who understands how trauma impacts financial decisions
And my own deep dive into how prenups hide assets in plain sight
Here's what you need to know from each episode.
🎙️ Disrupting Divorce Podcast Episode #223: High-Conflict Co-Parenting: What Most Experts Miss with Al Huntoon
Most co-parenting advice assumes both parents are reasonable adults who want what's best for the kids.
But you're not dealing with a reasonable adult…
You're dealing with someone who "forgets" to show up. Who uses the kids to extract information about your finances. Who threatens to withhold custody the second you push back on a lowball settlement offer.
In this episode, Al Huntoon—a parenting coordinator who specializes in high-conflict custody—breaks down what actually works when one parent is weaponizing the kids.
You'll learn how to:
Manage a high-conflict ex who uses the kids as pawns and thrives on chaos
Document patterns without becoming consumed by it (because tracking every violation can become its own full-time job)
Set boundaries that actually stick—even when your ex ignores every single one
Protect your kids from parental conflict without being a doormat or absorbing all the dysfunction yourself
Why this matters for your money:
Your parenting plan determines who pays for travel, medical expenses, extracurriculars, technology, mediation fees—thousands of dollars that add up fast. If you're tired of co-parenting advice that doesn't account for narcissistic exes or high-conflict chaos, you’ll definitely want to tune in on this one.
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🎙️ Disrupting Divorce Podcast Episode #222: Unhitched and Unfiltered: How to Emotionally Heal After Divorce with Oona Metz
You can start dating again. You can throw yourself into work. You can redecorate your entire house, join a gym, and delete every photo. And still be carrying unprocessed grief, anger, and trauma.
Moving on isn't the same as healing. And if you skip the healing part? It shows up later—in your settlement negotiations, your financial decisions, and your next relationship.
In this episode, I sit down with Oona Metz, a divorce coach who specializes in emotional recovery—helping women rebuild their identities after being someone's wife for years or decades.
You'll learn:
Why "moving on" isn't the same as healing—and how to tell the difference
The stages of emotional recovery post-divorce (and why they don't happen in a neat, linear order)
How to rebuild your identity after spending years defining yourself through your relationship
When therapy helps vs. when coaching is more effective—they're not interchangeable
Why this matters for your money:
Women who heal emotionally make better financial decisions. The women who rush to "be done"? They accept settlements they regret three years later—not because the terms were fair, but because they were negotiating from depletion.
If you're wondering whether you'll ever feel like yourself again, or if you're feeling tempted to settle just to stop the chaos—listen to this first.
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🎙️High Net Worth Divorce Insights: My Guest Feature on Our Prenup Lawyer Podcast
I was invited to join Our Prenup Lawyer Podcast to share the messy reality of prenups in high net worth divorce—and I didn't sugarcoat it.
Here's what most people don't know: Prenups get challenged 50% of the time in divorce. And whether they'll actually be upheld? Total crapshoot.
I've seen prenups used as tools of control—structured to leave one person with nothing while the other keeps a multi-million dollar estate. That's abuse.
In this conversation, I share:
The $25M+ I've helped women recover in settlements over the past decade
The story of the client whose husband claimed he owned 3 insurance agencies—we hired a forensic investigator and found 6. The 3 he hid? Those were the profitable ones.
The DAM method spouses use: Dodge disclosure. Avoid getting assets valued. Misrepresent information.
Why I insist ALL my remarrying clients get prenups (after working so hard to secure their divorce settlements, I'm not watching them walk into another marriage unprotected)
How prenups only work when both people operate in good faith with full transparency
Why this matters for your money: Prenups create the perfect cover for asset concealment. "That's separate property under the prenup"—except when you dig deeper, you find commingled funds, hidden income, and businesses that grew exponentially during the marriage but are conveniently "premarital." This is critical divorce advice for women in high-asset situations where the stakes are measured in millions, not thousands.
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This is only a handful—stay tuned for a steady stream of divorce advice for women.
Whether you're deep in the trenches or just starting to ask the hard questions, Disrupting Divorce: Conversations for Women has your back. Be sure to subscribe for more unfiltered insight, practical strategy, and the gaps your legal team won't fill.
I'm Rhonda Noordyk, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst®—and I'm firmly in your corner. 💛